Exploring the Complexity of Simplicity

Credit…Linda Xiao for The New York Times. Food stylist: Maggie Ruggiero. Prop stylist: Paige Hicks.

It often occurs to me, not for the first time, that the simplest aspects of life can be surprisingly intricate. When something is labeled as complicated or paradoxical, we mentally prepare ourselves for the layers of nuance that accompany it. However, it’s the seemingly straightforward concepts that can be the most perplexing.

Take the word “simple,” for instance, or “normal.” While these terms appear to present clear and obvious meanings, they can vary significantly based on personal perspectives. For example, I often find myself telling my youngest son not to rest his feet on the dining table during our meals. My reasoning is straightforward: it’s just not “normal,” I explain. Yet, in his eyes, this casual pose is the epitome of “normal.” He perceives it as comfortable, informal, and fitting for home. Why wouldn’t he feel at ease enough to kick back and put his feet up?

We will eventually reach an understanding, no doubt, but this situation underscores how everyday experiences can be richly complex. My interpretation of “normal” may not align with my son’s. What I consider “simple” might only resonate with me. Similarly, someone else’s definition of “fun,” “boring,” or “exciting” can often feel completely alien to others.

Recipe: Butternut, Tamarind and Coconut Stew

Recently, I’ve found myself pondering the concept of “comfort.” This is particularly relevant as it is the title of my new cookbook, leading to a plethora of discussions in recent weeks. What does comfort truly signify in the realm of food, and what does it mean to me personally? For instance, if I take the traditional shakshuka and infuse it with ginger, curry leaves, and tamarind, serving it alongside fluffy steamed rice—as my brilliant co-author, Helen Goh, has suggested—does it still retain its identity as shakshuka? Can it still be regarded as my comfort food? Does it preserve the essential familiarity that defines comfort food for me?