What to Consider When Choosing an Outfit for a First Date?
Dear Gillian, from Vancouver, Canada,
Deciding what to wear on a first date can be both exciting and nerve-wracking. While you mentioned that a classic outfit of jeans, a white T-shirt, and a black bra might be the ideal choice, it’s essential to recognize that there isn’t a one-size-fits-all solution. Our world is filled with diverse individuals, each with their own unique tastes, body shapes, and cultural backgrounds. Therefore, the perfect outfit can vary widely from person to person.
However, I can share some thoughts on how to approach your first-date wardrobe. To illustrate my point, allow me to reference a cultural phenomenon. When I first pondered your question, the image that sprang to mind was from the 2004 Adam Sandler-Drew Barrymore film “50 First Dates.” The film humorously depicts a woman with short-term memory loss who experiences the same day repeatedly, often wearing similar outfits. This brings us to a more relevant reference: the recent Netflix series “Nobody Wants This.” This rom-com captures contemporary dating and has become an unexpected style guide for first dates.
The show has even inspired a series of TikTok videos dedicated to the fashion choices of Kristen Bell’s character, particularly her outfits during various dates with her rabbi boyfriend, played by Adam Brody. The appeal lies in how her wardrobe encapsulates what designer Christopher John Rogers describes as the ideal first-date attire: “understated, but with a touch of surprise.”
Rogers advises considering your everyday clothing but elevating it slightly for the occasion. Here are some ideas:
- Pairing jeans with a stylish T-shirt and adding a statement earring for flair.
- Wearing a chic dress paired with casual sneakers for a fun twist.
- Opting for black jeans matched with a fitted black off-the-shoulder bodysuit, or a classic button-up shirt.
Ultimately, the key is to feel comfortable in every sense of the word. This includes selecting clothing that feels good physically—nobody enjoys the discomfort of shoes that pinch or outfits that restrict movement. On a first date, the last thing you want is to be distracted by tight clothing or to constantly adjust your attire.
Moreover, it’s equally important to wear something that feels psychologically comfortable. You should aim to present the most relaxed and polished version of yourself, without revealing everything all at once. Remember, a first date is merely the beginning of a journey of discovery, both for you and your potential partner.
So, trust your instincts, choose an outfit that makes you feel fabulous, and enjoy the experience of getting to know someone new!
